They say hard times will always reveal those who are your true friends. You may have encountered tough times in the past, but chances are that you will still experience some more in the future as long as you live and breathe. And when you do, there is no better shield than an ISFJ friend.
Whoever said nobody can fight your battles for you has probably never met an ISFJ. ISFJs are known by many names, the most prominent being protectors, defenders, or guardians. We prefer calling them protectors because ISFJs are loyal people who will stand by you come rain or shine and serve as your shield to keep you from harm.
ISFJ is the most common Myers-Briggs personality type in the United States, so you are either one or have one as a friend, family member, co-worker, or romantic partner. We have a lot to tell you about the ISFJ personality.
But before we dive in, do you know your MBTI personality type? Please take our MBTI personality type test to determine who you are and what makes you tick. You'll be glad you did.
What Is ISFJ Personality?
The ISFJ personality type is one of the 16 personalities that Isabel Myers and her mother, Myers Briggs, developed. They improved on Carl Jung's theory and created a comprehensive self-report personality inventory called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI for short) to help people figure out their personality.
The letters in ISFJ stand for Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, and Judging.
Protectors are introverts who enjoy solitude. When required to interact with others, they prefer doing it with a few close friends or one-on-one. They are uncomfortable in large crowds.
Their sensing attribute allows them to focus on facts and details. When presented with information, they want to know how to apply it in the real world. Protectors have the rare ability to combine their love for facts with their ability to feel for others. They tend to do what feels right rather than what logic dictates.
Their judging trait manifests as they favor meticulous planning, structure, and organization over spontaneity and unpredictability.
How Common Is the ISFJ Personality?
According to a survey, the ISFJ is the most common MBTI personality type in the United States, accounting for 13.8 percent of the general population. Broken down by gender, that’s 19% of the female population and 8% of males.
Famous People with ISFJ Personality
How do ISFJs become famous if they are introverts who do not seek the spotlight? Protectors may not seek the spotlight, but that doesn't mean it doesn't sometimes find them due to their exemplary qualities. They are introverts with excellent social skills who are passionate about what they do and take on noble causes to change the world.
A notable example of an ISFJ was Mother Teresa. She made it her life’s mission to care for the poor, providing food, shelter, and medicine to needy people. She protected the less privileged and displayed kindness, warmth, altruism, and empathy.
Another example was the late Queen Elizabeth 11. She was born into the royal family but took on a life of service to others and never faltered in her duties and responsibilities. Other ISFJ personality type celebrities include Beyonce, Rosa Parks, Vin Diesel, Aretha Franklin, Kate Middleton, George H.W. Bush, Halle Berry, Kendrick Lamar, etc.
How Do You Know If You Have an ISFJ Personality Type?
Nothing short of an ISFJ personality test would tell you accurately if you are an ISFJ. But paying attention to the following signs can also help you know if the person you're interacting with shows signs of the ISFJ personality traits, allowing you to deal with them better.
No two people are exactly alike. Even those with the same MBTI personality type usually possess unique qualities that set them apart. However, we've uncovered some of the most common attributes shared by people with the ISFJ personality type. If you notice these qualities in yourself, you might be an ISFJ.
ISFJs Protect Their Loved Ones from Harm
ISFJs earned the nickname “protectors,” “defenders,” or “guardians” because they care deeply for their loved ones, do everything in their power to make them happy, and are ready to shield them from harm. They usually defend others when wronged, even though they might not do the same for themselves.
ISFJs Are Loyal and Devoted
Protectors are often loyal and devoted to their loved ones. They stand by them and do everything to care for and protect them. They are also faithful to their traditions and values. They can become hostile toward someone whose ideas contradict their values and beliefs.
ISFJs Dislike Conflict
Protectors make great efforts to ensure their environment is discord-free. Whether it is their workplace, relationship, or home, they usually avoid volatile situations that can turn into conflict. When there is a disagreement with their partner, they typically explore ways to resolve it before it escalates.
ISFJs Are Introverts with Strong Social Skills
Protectors love helping others, so they often find themselves in situations where they connect and interact. Their frequent encounter with people and their caring and kind nature helps them build strong social skills. However, do not mistake them for extroverts. Protectors are naturally introverts and often prefer spending time alone or with a few close friends.
ISFJs Are Grounded in Reality
Protectors are skeptical about new ideas unless they can be applied practically to solve real problems. They want to deal with concrete facts or make decisions through experience.
For ISFJs, Old Habits Die Hard
Protectors love their traditions and routines. They want to remain among familiar friends and family in their serene environment where they’ve lived for years and relate with friendly neighbors with similar values while working a comfortable job. This might bore someone who loves spontaneity and adventure, but protectors dislike sudden changes to their lifestyle. If they can’t avoid those changes, they usually take time to adapt.
ISFJs Are Quiet but Observant
Protectors may be quiet but pay close attention to their surroundings. They notice things easily and observe their environment and people keenly. They can walk into a room and see small changes that others don't. They are also good at remembering things even after a long time.
We All Need Somebody to Lean On
Protectors are driven by a duty to help others, care for them, and make them happy. They understand that no one can be truly independent of other people. At the end of the day, we all need a shoulder to cry on, a partner to share our problems with, and loved ones to support us through thick and thin. They make themselves available to lift other people's burdens.
ISFJs Find It Hard to Open Up to Others
Although protectors are willing to serve others and help them through their struggles, they struggle with sharing personal problems. When ISFJs go through tough times, they usually bottle up their emotions and keep their struggles to themselves because they don't want to disturb others with their problems. Sometimes, bottling up these feelings can cause them to display negative reactions toward others.
ISFJs Give Great Gifts
Protectors put a lot of thought into the gifts they give their friends and partners. Because they are attentive listeners, they usually remember something you mentioned long ago. You may have casually discussed how you enjoyed playing tennis with your late father. They will gift you tennis gear — with shoes in the perfect size and color.
Protectors also love making hand-made gifts. They believe they are unique and come from the heart instead of mass-produced factory gifts. Gift-giving allows protectors to express how much they care for you without necessarily using words.
ISFJs Aren’t Crazy about the Spotlight
When protectors help others, they do so from behind the scenes, rarely seeking attention or the spotlight. It is rare to see them seek leadership positions because leaders are always up front and center. But despite their reluctance, they will take up leadership positions when asked because of their sense of duty and love for helping others.
ISFJs Are Hardworking, Meticulous, Rule-Followers
Once ISFJs commit to a person or cause, they spare no effort to complete the task. Nothing escapes their notice as they intend to deliver a perfect job. ISFJs love following the rules. They believe those rules are there to help everyone and won't tolerate those who break them.
ISFJ Strengths — What They Do Best
Protectors won’t grab the headlines, but they work hard behind the scenes to make everything tick. They invest in any worthwhile cause and drive themselves to deliver the best results.
People with the ISFJ personality type are warm, compassionate, perceptive, and kind-hearted. These qualities help them understand how others are feeling and how they can help them feel better. Protectors lift your spirits when you’re sad, calm you down when angry, and help you when in need.
They are dependable, devoted, and loyal to a fault. You can always count on them to show up when you need them. They stand by you during the good and bad times.
ISFJs are observant. They are great to converse with because they listen attentively to your words, not just nodding their heads while thinking about something else. They pay attention to the little things. Don't be surprised to see them offer you water or food when you're thirsty or starving but are too shy to say. They probably noticed it a few minutes after you walked in.
ISFJ Weaknesses — Things They Struggle With
Protectors care for others and can often tell how others feel and when they need help. They are also in tune with their emotions but struggle to express their feelings or ask for help for fear of burdening others with their problems.
Because they help others effortlessly without asking for anything in return, some people take them for granted. When protectors realize their partner is unappreciative, they lose their willingness to help and become resentful towards them.
Protectors respect their traditions and values to the point that they can become overly committed to them. They don’t want to accept new ideas or welcome changes that contradict those values. Only external forces beyond their control can force them to change; even then, they take their time doing it.
Protectors sometimes take on too much work because they do not delegate. They do this because they don’t want to burden others and don’t believe others will do the work as well as they would. If you want something done right, do it yourself.
Protectors are often overworked and underappreciated. They rarely complain or refuse favors, are wary of confrontation, and rarely stand up for themselves. It makes it easy for others to exploit them.
Not knowing when to let go is one of the protector’s main problems in a relationship. Protectors give so much of themselves to a relationship and are willing to resolve any problems therein. However, they might hang on to a toxic relationship for too long due to misplaced loyalty and devotion to their partners. Sometimes, letting go is the best decision for all parties.
What Are Hobbies and Dislikes of People with ISFJ Personality?
Protectors love helping people, so they often spend their leisure time volunteering at shelters, food banks, elderly homes, charity events, etc. They also love spending time alone; therefore, activities like writing, reading, watching movies, cooking, painting, decorating, yoga, etc., might appeal to them. ISFJs also love spending time with close friends and family, so they might enjoy camping, picnics, dinner with family, etc.
On the other hand, protectors dislike loud places, wild adventures, and surprise parties. They dislike any activity requiring them to come out of their shell, embrace the spotlight, or break the law.
Relationship between ISFJ and the Big Five Personality Traits
The Myers-Briggs personality type theory examines personality as a binary feature. You’re either extraverted or introverted, a sensing type or an intuitive type. Traits are more complex than that. While millions of people can have the same personality type, it’s hard to find people with the same score or "degree" of any group of personality traits.
The five-factor model examines personality traits as a spectrum where a person can score between 0 to 100% on each attribute. Let's look at the performance of the ISFJ personality on the Big Five personality trait spectrum.
Openness to Experience
Protectors are not open to experience. They dislike change, love tradition and the status quo, and are generally closed to experience.
Conscientiousness
This trait describes how likely a person is to set long-term goals and plan meticulously toward achieving those goals. Less conscientious people focus on short-term objectives and are more spontaneous when making decisions. ISFJs vary widely on this scale. Most are closer to the average, while some are highly conscientious.
Extraversion
The protector’s social skills are better than the average introvert, but they are still introverts. They record low to average scores here.
Agreeableness
Protectors usually score very high on the Agreeableness trait due to their kind nature and aversion to conflict. They are more willing to see things from other points of view and less inclined to enforce their opinions on others.
Neuroticism
ISFJs are well represented on both ends of the neuroticism spectrum. While they can experience sadness, self-doubt, and mood swings when criticized, many are also in control of their emotions (most of the time).
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What Is the Communication Style of ISFJ Personality?
Protectors are energized by time spent alone, so it isn't uncommon to see them withdraw into their shells. They keep a small circle of close friends for whom they care deeply. Although they find it easier to communicate in their inner circle, they still tend to keep their feelings to themselves for fear of bothering others with their problems.
ISFJs prefer taking a supportive role instead of being the lead. They want to avoid being the center of attention in public forums. Still, they listen attentively to what others are saying. Generally, they only contribute when they have something that can influence the discussion positively.
ISFJs are attentive listeners. They observe events and people keenly and notice all the small details others might consider unimportant. People love to share problems with them because they absorb all the information, remember even the minute details and put the needs of others first.
Best Careers for the ISFJ Personality Type
A workplace where every man is for himself and the competition is so fierce that workers try to outdo one another may not be ideal for an ISFJ. Protectors want a structured and orderly work environment where employees help one another and ensure no one is left behind.
Protectors are comfortable in a supportive role where they can help others and bring out the best in them without being the center of attention. Protectors are natural fits for the healthcare, education, and religious sectors.
The following jobs are most suitable for the ISFJs.
- Healthcare sector, e.g., physicians, nurses, pharmacists, etc.
- Social work, e.g., child care provider, social worker, probation officer.
- Education Sector, e.g., teacher, librarian, teaching assistant, school principal, etc.
- Office and Administrative work, e.g., secretary, accountant, receptionist, customer service rep, bookkeeper, etc.
- Security sector, e.g., firefighters, police officers, security guards, etc.
The Myers-Briggs model provides insight into how personality can impact career choice, but John Holland’s Career Theory takes it a step further. This career assessment looks at your personal interests to provide your “career personality type.”
The Relationship Style of the ISFJ Personality
Protectors do not make friends easily because they are often shy and reserved. They find it hard to express their feelings and may be uncomfortable around strangers. But once they break through that first barrier, relationships become easier for them. Because they find it hard to open themselves up to new people, they keep a small circle of close friends and commit to them for the long term.
Protectors hold their friends in high regard, showing incredible loyalty and dedication to them. They invest a lot into their relationships, making them seem one-sided, especially when their partners are not making a similar effort to grow the relationship.
Starting a relationship with their love interest is usually an uphill battle for the ISFJ because they find it difficult to express their feelings to their potential partners. Protectors know they have much to offer in a relationship but rarely make the first move due to the fear of rejection. Instead of putting their emotions into words, they usually show their affection in other practical ways, such as buying them great gifts, going above and beyond to help them, defending them in all situations, etc.
Protectors are devoted and committed to their romantic partners and do everything they can to make them happy. Knowing their limitations in expressing themselves freely to their partners, protectors often show their affection in several other practical ways. For example, serving them breakfast in bed, planning romantic trips, sending flowers and chocolate, listening attentively to their complaints, and remembering the little details in the relationship.
Tips for Interacting With the ISFJ Personality
Interacting with an ISFJ successfully depends on your willingness to take the initiative. Protectors are often reserved around strangers, so you must make them comfortable. Sometimes, you can lessen the tension by asking them how they are doing and then doing more of the talking.
Even around friends, they tend to listen more than they share. But they are more likely to respond in kind when they see that you're trying to build a conversation. Once your friendship with a protector has developed, and they feel at ease, interacting with them doesn't take much effort.
ISFJs are very supportive and will go out of their way to defend you in any situation. However, they might feel reluctant to share their problems because they don't want to trouble you. As their friend, let them know that their concerns are yours, and you will be happy to help solve them just like they would if the shoe were on the other foot.
If you’re in a relationship with a protector, you must understand that their reluctance to put their feelings into words does not mean they do not care deeply for you. They usually find other ways or actions to express their emotions. Make them feel comfortable enough because doing that allows them to do what they find difficult. Appreciate their efforts and let them know how much they mean to you. They might not express their feelings freely, but they love it when their partner acknowledges what they do for them.
Do You Have the ISFJ Personality Type?
Do you see yourself as a protector shielding others from harm? Did you relate to most of the information in our article?
If so, you might be an ISFJ!
Please take our 16 personality types assessment to confirm your suspicion.
